- About 37 years ago Jay and his bff Adam decided to go camping this weekend. So, like a good wife, I took an extra day of work today so that I could stay productive while Jay was gone. Then they cancelled their trip and Jay has a day off work and I have to be at the hospital all day. So. There’s that.
- BUT, he’s home doing dogdad stuff and I just overheard him say “Ok, guys, I’m going to go start the ribs, and then I’ll pour the pork juice over your food for breakfast. AND THEN I’m going to crush up your Trifexis and we’ll blow lines of that!”
- Random food though of the day: We love seafood, but it’s tricky knowing what to buy AND even if you do know what’s best for you health-wise and best for sustainability, can you afford it? At least, it’s tricky for me. I’ve sort of thought for a while that wild-caught anything is better than farming, but I recently read that shellfish such as scallops are just as healthy for our bodies but better for the environment when they’re farmed. I don’t know how that affects the price, but the idea is that less of the natural habitats of OTHER species are disturbed if scallops and other shellfish are farmed and harvested from one spot instead of a more spread out area.
- Besides a few people just being silly(don’t move that chair, it’s bad for the baby…?), the only true negativity I’ve gotten about being pregnant relates to working after I have the baby. In general people of a certain generation just expect me to quit, and a few in my own generation like to tell me that there is NO WAY I’ll be able to do my job after I have the baby. Unless I’m just the most pathetic person ever, I know that this can’t be true because a LOT of women work after having children. This article on how one woman changed her whole career to suit motherhood is interesting, but in general I just think that the “you’ll be a failure, just you wait” talk between women has absolutely got to stop. I don’t tell you you’re dumb for being at home with your baby, why on earth would you act like my choices are wrong because my husband and I at this point both contribute financially to our household? This is probably a part of a larger conversation, but I’ve found that some women love speaking only of the negative parts of motherhood and how hard it is and how much your life will change for the WORSE, and is that honestly helpful to a pregnant person trying to navigate a huge life change? And no, the “I’m trying to help you being realistic” excuse doesn’t really count when the tone is so condescending. My version of realistic just happens to come from watching women exactly like me, who are doing the motherhood and career thing with as much grace as they can muster, no matter how hard and messy it is. AND, if you’re that convinced that I’m going to be a huge failure at motherhood AND career come December, why not give me these few months of blissful ignorance? It just seems mean otherwise.
- I haven’t been doing a lot of catering recently in an effort to realistically cut back on my work (see above) and rest more, and I miss cooking for large crowds. So, if you need dinner or some other food let me know – I’m antsy. I’ll ship to Antartica or wherever you are. Maybe.